To You
On my website (currently under construction) I said it and now I am on this blog too which I call a Traveling Minds instead...
Fantasia reached out to the Baby Mama's/ Mothers and so will I... I have no clue to your situation, but I can create a scenario
I am like most girls... You know meet a guy, become his friend, date him and fall for him
I never intended for it to get, as far as, making babies, but I didn't want to get really old and then start having kids
Some say that I'm crazy for feeling that way, but I often imagined having his kid one day we all do
Not reluctantly but willingly
Everyone said you would be making the biggest mistake of your life and it will be very hard, but it's my body and decision... my life as well
What they see as a mistake I see as a blessing
Why am I being ridiculed for wanting to have a child at this age when everyone does it?
Not saying that I'm jumping on the bandwagon, but sometimes when you can't get that love you want from others, you can at least look to what came from your womb for love, that is without requirement or judgement
I know I'm young and that my whole life is ahead of me, but it's what my heart desires
I hadn't planned on having a child it was a thought, but I often wondered what it would be like to be a young Mother
One day you wake up and a month goes by with a missed cycle, but if you are irregular it happens, so it's normal, but if you know your monthly's date then that's when it's a problem
You begin to worry... tell a friend before him and they are your emotion of shock
Then you're faced with an ultimatum... Keep the baby and face the many opinions of the world or get an abortion
Then it's your parents finding out, your child's father and his responsibility of helping to take care of "our" child, and the walk of what everyone calls shame
I think about how much he loves me and know for a fact he wouldn't abandon us, but who's to say if he will keep his word
So I get a pregnancy test in private and await my answer... minutes pass and so did I with the test
I then call him up and ask him to put all that he is doing aside
I reveal the news and he doesn't believe me... show him the test and another is taken to prove to him that I am
Where do we go from here?... He ask if I would like to keep our child or keep it a secret (abortion)
Shall we tell our parents? We both don't know... we're young and will be called foolish
So what do we do now? I would have to switch schools and get a job and he will have to work even harder
I'm into three months of pregnancy and Mom and Dad still has no clue
They say I put on weight and my eating habits have changed... they know their daughter
So what do I do? what will my siblings say?... "We never would have thought you too, would get pregnant" then others who think they know you... "I always knew she was a fast girl!" Those people always seem to never fail you, right!
I didn't do it to keep him or because I thought he was cheating honestly it just happened...
But no it's the cliche' a pregnant girl can never state her cause she's thrown in a class with the others
It's not fair, but it's the way of life
They say we shouldn't be doing it anyway, but Why was it okay for our ancestors to do it so young?
Then it goes back to them saying... "They had nothing else to do" or "Times were different back then" or my all time favorite one "They had to do it because that was the way it was; you have a chance now"
Lies all lies! They did have a chance, but became inferior to the world and did as so- called told!
Now it's time to tell! Too late for an abortion they don't like it ... Oh well!
Some will be, upset guys will look at you different, and friends will go on with their lives
Who cares what they think at least my child will think differently of me
They say I don't care I would have gotten an abortion... but you know what! You try feeling the kicks and being attached, then do it to your own child... you wouldn't do it neither!
It's so easy for a guy to say it, but as a young lady, women period! We're faced with a lot
So the months pass and hormones kick in... needs are being met, then your real friends are revealed
Your name is being slandered and business spread in the streets about what you did in between the sheets
Now it's getting old and people are starting to Congratulate, then again others will be themselves... the haters will hate
I just hope that one day will end for the "Baby Mama Drama" they swear that they know!
Being called stupid and just another preggo is not cool and it used to hurt, but who cares now
Our parents accepted and I was finally accepted by his Mother after it being said that, "It's not his or she's tying you down"... Soo like a mother to protect her son
I had it rough during pregnancy not feeling the love at all
I still stand despite them calling it my downfall
The baby is hear now everyone is waiting to see
So my poor baby can be judged by the world to be called beautiful or just ugly
It's a shame how this world is, and my heart aches even more for other kids
There goes the status being put up calling out us preggo girls
She's stupid... she did it for marriage... she did it to make him stay... reality will hit her hard and she'll end up being another one raising a baby alone in this world
Another fatherless baby she made a stupid decision
The one's who are always saying this blasphemy tends to be the uppity "College Girl"
Always trying to make someone feel bad about themselves; when really she does about herself
She hides behind her obsession for her looks and material things
She thinks that because you had a baby you're dumb, as if you never went to school at all
Why she points out the one's with babies? It's because she's inferior to those around her
She knows that she can't pick on them, because she's in their reach to put a killing on her
She thinks that she knows it all about the life of the preggo world, but has not a clue
The joy that's received from a baby and love no one else cared to give
The money spent on behalf of my child's expenses, but the mind over matter, because as long as me and others are providing for my child, then I don't mind, and your opinion on my income to support my child does not matter!
The fact that you believe I don't have a future nor standards... I had been raised just like you... that's if you too, do not dwell in a single parent home, and if I did my child will not!
The fact that I did not go away to school, but that I am in school back home building a foundation for me, and my child's future... pick up your face thanks!
The fact that my child does get to see their father, and if he were to leave still have other father figures around them... who's doing it to keep him now?
The fact that me getting pregnant to you was a mistake, and that I'm not a good Mother... It's a full time job and I'm darn good at it!
The fact that you think I will never amount to anything and become just another Baby Mama...
To be a Baby Mama is to be full of drama... I care for and support my child and was raised with class; my child will not and shall not be a product of being abandoned, a street wanderer, without clothes and shoes in the eyes of the public, nor me a another young mother who knows no better. I have good sense and do what I can to raise my child right... Remember who's the outsider looking in!
You can keep trying to peep through my window or let me befriend you by coming inside and seeing for yourself!
To the young Mothers who keep getting scorned by the world... I can keep it simple and tell you to listen to Tupac's- Keep your head up or Fantasia- Baby Mama, but I won't! It's not enough. You got pregnant and had a child... didn't know how life would turn out for you, but no one does. Life isn't a bowl of cherries and it will never be perfect! Everyone gets treated like crap even the people at the top of the hierarchy, because there is always someone out there who envies you! Whatever you're doing keep doing it, and if you're not doing anything then I'm here to give you that boost of confidence by telling you that you can do something. Don't sit around and wait for things to be handed to you... Get all the assistance you can get to do something to better your situation. Who cares what others think... It's your life and the decisions that you make, whether good or bad, should be made by you, so that you know, that when it all boils down to what happens in the end, you can only blame yourself for it's outcome!" Remember YOUR SITUATION DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE YOU DO!!! I heard that from Allen Payne(actor) not in the same words, but in first person perspective, and decided to share it with you because it makes sense.
For you Jas,Quencia, Shawney, and Gesa... and to all who have blessings and not mistakes
Fantasia reached out to the Baby Mama's/ Mothers and so will I... I have no clue to your situation, but I can create a scenario
I am like most girls... You know meet a guy, become his friend, date him and fall for him
I never intended for it to get, as far as, making babies, but I didn't want to get really old and then start having kids
Some say that I'm crazy for feeling that way, but I often imagined having his kid one day we all do
Not reluctantly but willingly
Everyone said you would be making the biggest mistake of your life and it will be very hard, but it's my body and decision... my life as well
What they see as a mistake I see as a blessing
Why am I being ridiculed for wanting to have a child at this age when everyone does it?
Not saying that I'm jumping on the bandwagon, but sometimes when you can't get that love you want from others, you can at least look to what came from your womb for love, that is without requirement or judgement
I know I'm young and that my whole life is ahead of me, but it's what my heart desires
I hadn't planned on having a child it was a thought, but I often wondered what it would be like to be a young Mother
One day you wake up and a month goes by with a missed cycle, but if you are irregular it happens, so it's normal, but if you know your monthly's date then that's when it's a problem
You begin to worry... tell a friend before him and they are your emotion of shock
Then you're faced with an ultimatum... Keep the baby and face the many opinions of the world or get an abortion
Then it's your parents finding out, your child's father and his responsibility of helping to take care of "our" child, and the walk of what everyone calls shame
I think about how much he loves me and know for a fact he wouldn't abandon us, but who's to say if he will keep his word
So I get a pregnancy test in private and await my answer... minutes pass and so did I with the test
I then call him up and ask him to put all that he is doing aside
I reveal the news and he doesn't believe me... show him the test and another is taken to prove to him that I am
Where do we go from here?... He ask if I would like to keep our child or keep it a secret (abortion)
Shall we tell our parents? We both don't know... we're young and will be called foolish
So what do we do now? I would have to switch schools and get a job and he will have to work even harder
I'm into three months of pregnancy and Mom and Dad still has no clue
They say I put on weight and my eating habits have changed... they know their daughter
So what do I do? what will my siblings say?... "We never would have thought you too, would get pregnant" then others who think they know you... "I always knew she was a fast girl!" Those people always seem to never fail you, right!
I didn't do it to keep him or because I thought he was cheating honestly it just happened...
But no it's the cliche' a pregnant girl can never state her cause she's thrown in a class with the others
It's not fair, but it's the way of life
They say we shouldn't be doing it anyway, but Why was it okay for our ancestors to do it so young?
Then it goes back to them saying... "They had nothing else to do" or "Times were different back then" or my all time favorite one "They had to do it because that was the way it was; you have a chance now"
Lies all lies! They did have a chance, but became inferior to the world and did as so- called told!
Now it's time to tell! Too late for an abortion they don't like it ... Oh well!
Some will be, upset guys will look at you different, and friends will go on with their lives
Who cares what they think at least my child will think differently of me
They say I don't care I would have gotten an abortion... but you know what! You try feeling the kicks and being attached, then do it to your own child... you wouldn't do it neither!
It's so easy for a guy to say it, but as a young lady, women period! We're faced with a lot
So the months pass and hormones kick in... needs are being met, then your real friends are revealed
Your name is being slandered and business spread in the streets about what you did in between the sheets
Now it's getting old and people are starting to Congratulate, then again others will be themselves... the haters will hate
I just hope that one day will end for the "Baby Mama Drama" they swear that they know!
Being called stupid and just another preggo is not cool and it used to hurt, but who cares now
Our parents accepted and I was finally accepted by his Mother after it being said that, "It's not his or she's tying you down"... Soo like a mother to protect her son
I had it rough during pregnancy not feeling the love at all
I still stand despite them calling it my downfall
The baby is hear now everyone is waiting to see
So my poor baby can be judged by the world to be called beautiful or just ugly
It's a shame how this world is, and my heart aches even more for other kids
There goes the status being put up calling out us preggo girls
She's stupid... she did it for marriage... she did it to make him stay... reality will hit her hard and she'll end up being another one raising a baby alone in this world
Another fatherless baby she made a stupid decision
The one's who are always saying this blasphemy tends to be the uppity "College Girl"
Always trying to make someone feel bad about themselves; when really she does about herself
She hides behind her obsession for her looks and material things
She thinks that because you had a baby you're dumb, as if you never went to school at all
Why she points out the one's with babies? It's because she's inferior to those around her
She knows that she can't pick on them, because she's in their reach to put a killing on her
She thinks that she knows it all about the life of the preggo world, but has not a clue
The joy that's received from a baby and love no one else cared to give
The money spent on behalf of my child's expenses, but the mind over matter, because as long as me and others are providing for my child, then I don't mind, and your opinion on my income to support my child does not matter!
The fact that you believe I don't have a future nor standards... I had been raised just like you... that's if you too, do not dwell in a single parent home, and if I did my child will not!
The fact that I did not go away to school, but that I am in school back home building a foundation for me, and my child's future... pick up your face thanks!
The fact that my child does get to see their father, and if he were to leave still have other father figures around them... who's doing it to keep him now?
The fact that me getting pregnant to you was a mistake, and that I'm not a good Mother... It's a full time job and I'm darn good at it!
The fact that you think I will never amount to anything and become just another Baby Mama...
To be a Baby Mama is to be full of drama... I care for and support my child and was raised with class; my child will not and shall not be a product of being abandoned, a street wanderer, without clothes and shoes in the eyes of the public, nor me a another young mother who knows no better. I have good sense and do what I can to raise my child right... Remember who's the outsider looking in!
You can keep trying to peep through my window or let me befriend you by coming inside and seeing for yourself!
To the young Mothers who keep getting scorned by the world... I can keep it simple and tell you to listen to Tupac's- Keep your head up or Fantasia- Baby Mama, but I won't! It's not enough. You got pregnant and had a child... didn't know how life would turn out for you, but no one does. Life isn't a bowl of cherries and it will never be perfect! Everyone gets treated like crap even the people at the top of the hierarchy, because there is always someone out there who envies you! Whatever you're doing keep doing it, and if you're not doing anything then I'm here to give you that boost of confidence by telling you that you can do something. Don't sit around and wait for things to be handed to you... Get all the assistance you can get to do something to better your situation. Who cares what others think... It's your life and the decisions that you make, whether good or bad, should be made by you, so that you know, that when it all boils down to what happens in the end, you can only blame yourself for it's outcome!" Remember YOUR SITUATION DOES NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE YOU DO!!! I heard that from Allen Payne(actor) not in the same words, but in first person perspective, and decided to share it with you because it makes sense.
For you Jas,Quencia, Shawney, and Gesa... and to all who have blessings and not mistakes
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